Browsing through a “new to me” yard sale book this past week, the quote, “balance is not a realistic goal for realistic women” caught my eye.
Since “balance” is in my blog title, and something I’m continually pursuing, I sped read through the book’s main premise and it rendered me silent. It states, “You will discover how to reorient your life around your own desires and needs rather than around time management tricks.”
REORIENT my life around my desires?
Now ladies, I am just telling you, if I reorient my life around my own desires and needs my family would never eat. I would lay in bed all day with my books and laptop, and the laundry would pile up more than it has already.
I’m just stating the truth. Every once in awhile a day like that happens, but I’m pretty sure that those days are called “Mother’s Day, My Birthday, and Selfish Me days.”
In this day and age of the ‘Me First’ mentality, so many books encourage us to have it all. Well, it’s not my season to have it all. Now, don’t get me wrong, wonderful points were made about taking care of ourselves, and making our homes more beautiful, which I always encourage, but prioritizing my happiness? As hard as it is to say…
I am not promised happiness…nor is it guaranteed.
But absolute, unending joy found even in the midst of those difficult times – absolutely!
Happiness comes and goes with emotions, and we all know that a woman’s emotions are up and down with the weather (or time of the month :)), but joy….now, that is a choice. Joy choices are made in the moment by moment, day by day, incident by incident occurrences that determine how our lives are shaped. And often, with those joy choices, comes happiness. Happiness in the little things.
I’m tangenting onto another topic. Let’s get back to the challenge of finding balance. If my desires are at the forefront of those balancing act decisions, it’s never going to happen. But when I steward those decisions based on choices that I am called to for my family’s journey, the right track sets its course.
Personally, it was a tough week of reality checks for me. Much of my margin had been lost in the rat race of life. I had to admit that some really important areas slid, and the only one responsible…me. Plain and simple. How’s that for this Family Manager’s Monday morning looksee in the mirror.
Yet that’s where our attempt at balancing beauty and bedlam begins…evaluating on a regular basis the good, bad and ugly, and embracing them for what they are – life. Real Life! Life lived graciously to the fullest juggled in with lots of imperfections.
There are many steps to take to create a more balanced life, yet I will never be a perfectly balanced woman. I’ve tried and it leaves me feeling frustrated, inadequate and “less than…”
But you know what…if I was even close to that perfect woman, then I wouldn’t need Him.
Right now the Lord whispers His affirmation that it’s OK to be “less than” because He is more than enough.
So for this Monday, I quickly type these words off the top of my head and heart. Every thing in me knows I shouldn’t hit “publish” because all good bloggers edit, think through and process before publishing their posts. But then, if I did that, I wouldn’t be able to go do my Next Thing…and the Next Thing needs to be done, even if I’d rather be …
Are you feeling out of balance?
Do you care to join me in Just Doing the Next Thing?
Let’s encourage each other along the way.