How is it that Easter is right around the corner? I have so many fun traditions, recipes and decor ideas in the archives if you’re looking for more ideas, check here.
As a young mom, with four babies in five years, many years of my life swirled around a few choice things.
One, that all oatmeal pieces were out of my hair by noon. Two, that all my personal undergarments were tucked in when out in public and three, if those undergarments were not tucked in, please don’t tell me, I would never be the wiser.
Life as a mom of multiple preschoolers created a constant world wind of craziness, cuteness and strong conviction, but my heart’s desire and purpose at that time has not changed from the present: To Know God and Make Him Known.
That desire manifested itself in varying forms throughout my life stages, but imagine my surprise when I found out that celebrating holidays was not as simple as it seemed.
Growing up, my family tapestry was woven rich with traditions, and as a new mom, I was so excited to create that solid foundation of memory making experiences as well. Yet suddenly, I was assaulted with a wide range of varying views from many Christians which I respected the most. Some of you are thinking, really? It’s just Easter. Let it be. I understand, really, I do.
Opinions stretched from, “If you tell your children that there is an Easter Bunny and a Santa Claus, and then they eventually find out that they are not real, when you attempt to tell them about Jesus, and they can’t see Him either, they won’t believe He exists,” to “We have freedom in Christ. It’s our responsibility to teach them the real meaning of Easter, and point them to the Cross, but having pretend fun won’t hurt them either.” [Read More…]
I’ve been so quiet over here, but not on Instagram (jenschmidt_beautyandbedlam) where I post almost daily (including video stories). Recently, I’ve been sharing more Mentor Mom moments over there and it makes my passion for encouraging moms come alive. Over the next few months, I will get back to our Mentor Mom series here, but my book manuscript is due May 1st and then I hope to be back to regular posting. Here’s my latest from IG.
For years I’ve preached the parenting mantra to myself, “Rules without a relationship = rebellion.”
So I’ve dug into reaching their hearts and straddled the shaky balance between the often necessary rules and mentoring deep heart connection.
Here’s the reality which I wouldn’t have believed as a young mom.
As moms, we can put all the wonderful check marks of good parenting in place, do everything “right” and they may still choose rebellion. Initially, that was a hard one for my Pollyanna mothering personalty to swallow. It may not always be an outward “Here I am, watch me sin” kind of rebellion, but it may be a subtle shifting in their heart. When that happens, take note, get on your knees, dig deep into prioritizing special time with them and do battle for their heart.
For our five teens, social media has been one of the biggest challenges and I guarantee, it will be for your kids as well. Be aware of the grip that may take hold of your child’s heart and mind because its impacts weaves some dangerous webs if unchecked.
The hard lesson that I learned was that no matter how many filters you put on to protect them or apps that help navigate these tricky waters of time useage (all of which are necessary and good), ultimately, as they grow older, it’s still their choice. We can not force heart change or guard their mind for them (as much as our controlling tendencies want that.).
So when our 17 year old daughter shared that she was giving up all forms of social media for Lent (we aren’t even in a church who practices this discipline), my momma heart melted because this is a huge sacrifice: a surrendering.
She’d be the first to admit that she found herself gravitating all day to snapchat. I’ve challenged her possible addiction to this new instant communication, but ultimately, I knew that enforcing a “rule” to a 17 year old would be a bandaid: the decision had to come from a conviction of the heart. [Read More…]
Can you believe it’s that time of year again? We’ve been having unseasonably high temps in the south, so our daffodils, hostas and buds are coming early. I always revisit this post because I continue to divide my free plants.
For the last few months, we’ve been tackling just a bit of our backyard bedlam. Just to make you all feel better about your yard, I showed you just how aggressively the weeds had taken over. I shared that the professionals told us our only hope for our grass was to start completely over and I asked for your suggestions on some of your favorite plants.
Since our front yard landscaping project is the first place we are going to invest in, you were great with all your ideas, but it’s a huge undertaking so for a quick landscape pick me up, I decided to focus on the area under our big shade trees – an area easy to beautify.
Initially, I made sure to kill all the crazy weeds lurking everywhere.
But then, our son decided to surprise me for my birthday by creating a tiny landscape oasis (read about it here), complete with a swinging bed, right in the spot where I had started to work.
He divided the large hostess into small plants, used the rocks that he found in our woods and created the retaining wall and even pulled my freshly painted chair off the porch to use as a plant stand. [Read More…]