Seventh grade cheerleading.
The moment had finally come. I made the squad. Yes, thee cheerleading squad and it was time to buy the uniform. The school provided the skirt, but we had to purchase the sweater.
Now during this certain decade (the decade that must not be named), the Izod, Lacoste crew neck sweaters were all the rage. Remember those basic sweaters that had the cute little alligators in the right hand corner? The elite alligator which signified to everyone that this article of clothing cost much more than a similar sweater on the rack next to it?
I couldn’t wait to wear that new sweater. I was 12 years old and it symbolized all that was right in my junior high world. The sky was the limit, until we got to the mall and my mom witnessed the price tag.
You see, my mom quickly did the math and in a split second, my utopic junior high dream of sporting that trendy, designer sweater was crushed.
“Jennifer, We are not spending $20 more for that sweater just because it’s a designer name when I can get the same exact sweater at JC Penny without the alligator on it.”
“But mom, the cheerleading coach said it had to be a yellow, Izod sweater. I can not be the only one showing up with a different sweater.”
“Don’t worry. It will be fine and I will take care of it.”
And in that moment, I knew she was up to something. We left the mall with a $10 yellow, crew neck sweater that did NOT have the necessary emblem and I was certain that my cheerleading days were over before they began.
Little did I know that she would impart a life lesson that would shape not just how I thought about certain aspects of my finances, but a life lesson that would be passed down to future generations.
As a 12 year old, I needed to be reminded that our worth is not based on the car we drive, the brand name clothes we wear or the amount of money we spend. Our character isn’t strengthened by making sure we “keep up with the Jones,” and our teen years certainly aren’t defined by the label on our sweater.
(In my 40’s, I still need that still small voice to remind me of that lesson.)
We went home that evening and she grabbed a pair of my dad’s Izod socks. She snipped off the alligator and sewed it onto my cheerleading sweater.
I. WAS. MORTIFIED!!!! Can you even believe she would do that to me??? Is your seventh grade self feeling the pain?
But Voila! An identical sweater for half the price.
Now realize, if I hadn’t told anyone, no one would have known, but of course, I had to make a global announcement of her craziness to the entire seventh grade class and to this day, that lesson marked me.
Marked me for life – for the better.
At an early age, my mom instilled in me the importance of living with in one’s means and building a budget. She modeled for me comparison shopping and saved when possible, so she could afford what she wanted. She understood the difference between want vs need. The Izod sweater purchase showcased that perfectly. She knew purchasing quality clothing brand was a worthy investment, but she also knew I would never wear this sweater again, so why not save where we could.
This memory surfaced last Christmas when our high school son asked for Ralph Lauren clothing. With five children, we set a clothing limit for each child, so I asked him, “Since you know our budget, would you like me to buy a few brand new items for you or do you give me permission to hit up local thrift stores and outlets to get you an entire Polo wardrobe for the same price?”
He pondered it a bit and then agreed that if I could promise to pick out “cool” things, he was fine if they were second hand.
The result? Ten, instead of two, Polo items for Christmas, many which were practically new and two with tags. And yes, I realize that he may be telling this story decades later, just like I do with my mom and her stolen sock alligator and I pray that it teaches him the same lesson. 😉
Our parents impact us in so many ways for both the positive and negative, but I’m so thankful that my mom instilled so many positive financial lessons in my life.
Were your parents savers or spenders? Has it impacted how you handle your money?
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Every day when we wake up, we have a choice and sometimes I forget that very simple, yet vitally important truth.
We begin the day with new opportunities, new interactions, and new decisions.
Many things in our day to day life are completely out of our control and it’s so difficult to unleash our tight grip, pry open our hands, and relinquish those things, but one thing we can always control is our choices.
It’s not easy and often, I get it wrong, but I know that my attitude makes all the difference.
That’s why I want to share this free printable I created just for you.
I need this simple reminder often.
I’m choosing to make this a great day!
Print it off. Stick it on the fridge or in a cute frame on the wall. Print one for each of your kids’ rooms to help them remember to that their attitude matters.
Today, let’s choose to make this a great one, regardless of the circumstances.
Click on one of the three options to download and print off your copy. The colors vary just a bit.
I’ve been making this recipe for quite a few years ago, but remember what I put when I first tried it. “There are times when I bite into a new recipe and I just exclaim, “Wow.”
Rarely do I hear “ooh and ahhs” from our children on something that is 100% healthy and delicious. Well, with this Citrus Herb Chicken, it was a bit more than that. Out of my full mouth came something like, “Oh yum, that is so moist and I love the blend of those flavors. I can’t believe how good it is and how easy it was to prepare, and it’s perfect for my 17 Day Diet Keeping the Weight Off: What are You Eating? I can eat this every day without guilt.”
Yes, I’m always on and off in my big push to lose some of those pounds that I have put on over the last years, but I do know that choosing healthy, low carb, whole food, recipe options are always best, and this is perfect. The best part though is that our kids gobbled it up right along with me.
The variety of flavors bursts in your mouth and leaves you wondering. Who would expect lemon to pair so well with chili powder?
While I made this with skinless, boneless chicken breast, it’s a perfect recipe for which to take advantage of some of the varying chicken sales, since this works just as well with pieces.
As I shared in my “Easy Ways to Get Dinner on the Table fast” post, often I come home and separate my bulk chicken packages into individual freezer bags with some kind of marinade or seasoning rub before putting them into the freezer. For this, I did use the package of chicken that had been tossed with a bit of Worcestershire Sauce. Yes, that’s it. That’s my lazy marinade, but it works. When I have my homemade seasonings and rubs mixed up, I will add some of those in as well (and they’re so good.) [Read More…]